This is a crop piece from an article on Guang Ming Daily that I wish to share with all of you. In this article, the father of a 24 year old male from Penang who recently committed suicide due to relationship problem, share his views and regrets while he look back on his relation with his son for the past 24 years. Due to the article being in mandarin, I would like to share some of the important points or realization that the Father, who's also a aesthetic surgeon has stated in the article.
“我到現在都很自責，這一切都是我的責任。我最大的遺憾是，沒有好好教兒子做人，也沒有和兒子溝通。＂
My greatest remorse, was neglecting the importance of communication and teachings with my son.
“我覺得我做到很錯，沒有教他怎樣做人，小的時候容易教；現在二十多歲，你跟他講，他會說你Bullshit（廢話）。＂
I felt that my deepest mistake was not able to teach him the importance of growing up, is easier to teach when he is young, but when he is at his twenties, he will only reply 'bullshit.'
許崇明說，如果時光能夠倒流，他最渴望的父親節禮物，是父子倆可以促膝談心。
If I could turn back time, the biggest present that I hope for on this Father's day was to be able to communicate heart to heart with my son.
“我小時雖吃苦，但卻讓我更加堅強，並向著目標勇往直前，但兒子的生活卻太安逸，不愁沒錢花，生活也沒目標。
Despite going through hardship when I was young, it did not break me but help me to be brave and more determine in achieving my goals. Whereas my son had a smooth and comfortable life, money was never a problem and hence he has no reason to fight in life.
他死後，我才知道，孩子吃苦是好的，像感情不是你要就有的，如果承受不了打擊，往往會做出傻事。
After his departure, I then realize, it is better for your child to suffer some hardship since young, for example like relationship is not something you get by just wanting it, if one couldn't take the hit of failure, chances of them breaking down is high.
他認為心靈修養很重要，萬一遇到打擊，也不會讓人輕易迷失
the importance of mental and spiritual strength, as one those not lose itself easily when failure hits.
兒子小時候的環境是他的責任，他安排不好，才導致24年的今天，兒子選擇墜樓自殺。
his growing up since childhood is my responsibility, for not being able to be there to look after what he really needs, causes what happens today.
他勸請年輕人說，有些煩惱經過一段時間後自然會解開，因此應看開一點，勿鑽牛角尖。
to the young ones out there, certain problems can be cured by time, hence one should always to look at the bright side and not dwell on unhappiness or unsolvable problems.
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