This is a crop piece from an article on Guang Ming Daily that I wish to share with all of you. In this article, the father of a 24 year old male from Penang who recently committed suicide due to relationship problem, share his views and regrets while he look back on his relation with his son for the past 24 years. Due to the article being in mandarin, I would like to share some of the important points or realization that the Father, who's also a aesthetic surgeon has stated in the article.
My greatest remorse, was neglecting the importance of communication and teachings with my son.
I felt that my deepest mistake was not able to teach him the importance of growing up, is easier to teach when he is young, but when he is at his twenties, he will only reply 'bullshit.'
If I could turn back time, the biggest present that I hope for on this Father's day was to be able to communicate heart to heart with my son.
Despite going through hardship when I was young, it did not break me but help me to be brave and more determine in achieving my goals. Whereas my son had a smooth and comfortable life, money was never a problem and hence he has no reason to fight in life.
After his departure, I then realize, it is better for your child to suffer some hardship since young, for example like relationship is not something you get by just wanting it, if one couldn't take the hit of failure, chances of them breaking down is high.
the importance of mental and spiritual strength, as one those not lose itself easily when failure hits.
his growing up since childhood is my responsibility, for not being able to be there to look after what he really needs, causes what happens today.
to the young ones out there, certain problems can be cured by time, hence one should always to look at the bright side and not dwell on unhappiness or unsolvable problems.
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